#reasonstobeatyourgirlfriend: No Child’s Life Should Be Dimished by Domestic Violence


Last Sunday #reasonstobeatyourgirlfriend trended on Twitter. Wil Wheaton pointed out on his tumblr blog that in the twitterverse #fuckyouwashington is not ok, but a topic that promotes domestic violence is allowed. Why is domestic violence not considered obscene by the people who run Twitter? Domestic violence is a human rights issue.

Via the Buenos Aires Herald

… a woman named Candace Kuss contacted the company’s CEO, Dick Costolo via Twitter, asking how such an offensive hashtag was allowed on the Trending Topics list while the one created by Jarvis was suspiciously nowhere to be seen.

To the surprise of many, Costolo replied that the trends are algorithmic and not chosen by the company, but confirmed that they “edit out” any trends containing obscenities.

The backlash was immediate.

Sady at Tiger Beatdown used her razor-sharp wit to shame the most sexist (and clueless) twits. I don’t know who started the #reasonstobeatyourgirlfriend Twitter trend, but I do know that domestic violence is a great tragedy:

Globally, more than 275 million women and children experience domestic violence.

Approximately 5.3 million of those women and children live in the United States.

Witnessing domestic violence exacts a terrible emotional toll on children.

Imagine that you are a six year old and that your mother, the person you love most in the world, has just tucked you into bed. But you cannot fall asleep. You do not dare close your eyes. You pinch your leg to stay awake because you are worried. You know the voices in the other room will grow louder. Then your mother will scream. You will spring from your bed, open your door, crouch down, peek around the corner and wait. When his hand swings back to hit her and he yells “Put Your Hands Down” you run into the middle of the beating hoping that you can stop it. When you are unsuccessful, you return to bed scared, angry, confused and feeling helpless.

When this incident is experienced by 3.3 million innocent children on a regular basis every year, the consequences for our nation are enormous… – Makers of Memories

Makes of Memories is the only national domestic violence organization devoted to transforming the lives of children traumatized by violence perpetrated at home. Chairman and Founder, Brian F. Martin, experienced domestic violence as a child. At age six he tried to kill the man who abused this mother. Unfortunately, that is not unusual as 63% of all boys, age 11-20, who commit murder kill the man who was abusing their mother.

That’s an awful statistic and one that should concern everyone. Brian F. Martin is doing something about it by founding an organization that serves the needs of women and children in financial need who have experienced chronic, serious abuse. Makers of Memories seeks to transform lives through education, intervention, therapeutic and support services to help children overcome the trauma of domestic violence.

Our vision is to live in a country where no child’s life is diminished by domestic violence.

Visit http://www.makersofmemories.org to learn more and support them in any way that you can. Remember: Children learn what they live.

If you and/or your children are being abused, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE(7233)or TTY 1-800-787-3224. Unsure if you are being abused? Take this questionnaire from National Domestic Violence Hotline website.

Does your partner:

Embarrass you with put-downs?
Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
Make all of the decisions?
Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
Prevent you from working or attending school?
Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
Force you to try and drop charges?
Threaten to commit suicide?
Threaten to kill you?

If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE(7233)or TTY 1-800-787-3224. Support is out there all you have to do is call. 🙂


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